After 100's of visits to my "Why I wear skirts and dresses" I thought I would gather together some of my favourite quotes about being feminine. I wear skirts and dresses because I want to be feminine and look like a woman. I have no interest in dressing like a man or even behaving like a man and I am not alone on this one.
God gave us a special gift and that gift was femininity and we need to embrace it 100% and not be ashamed of being feminine in a very unfeminine world. We need to be proud of the word "feminine", even if the world is no longer proud of women being "feminine". We should be as proud of the word "feminine" as feminists are about the word "feminism".
Femininity isn't just about the way we dress or the jewellery we wear, it is about the way we behave, the way we nurture our children, how we interact with others, the way we speak, the way God is in our lives. Being pure, calm, gentle, peaceful, dignified, loving, trustworthy, unselfish, honourable, caring, tender, the carers of our home, not one for gossip, brashness, aggressive, pushy or bossy.
She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness.
These attributes are qualities we need to strive for and understand they do not make us weaker, less equal to men, less important and nor do they trap us in the home. They simply make us more Godly women.
The older women likewise, that they be reverent in behaviour, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.
It is what makes us different to men, and men different to women.
Just as God intended.
"Why do women want to dress like men when they’re fortunate enough to be women? Why lose femininity, which is one of our greatest charms? We get more accomplished by being charming than we would be flaunting around in pants and smoking. I’m very fond of men. I think they are wonderful creatures. I love them dearly. But I don’t want to look like one.” Tasha Tudor
“It seems to be the fashion nowadays for a girl to behave as much like a man as possible. Well, I won't! I'll make the best of being a girl and be as nice a specimen as I can: sweet and modest, a dear, dainty thing with clothes smelling all sweet and violety, a soft voice, and pretty, womanly ways. Since I'm a girl, I prefer to be a real one!” Mrs George de Horne Vaizey
“It is a naive sort of feminism that insists that women prove their ability to do all the things that men do. This is a distortion and a travesty. Men have never sought to prove that they can do all the things women do. Why subject women to purely masculine criteria? Women can and ought to be judged by the criteria of femininity, for it is in their femininity that they participate in the human race. And femininity has its limitations. So has masculinity. That is what we’ve been talking about. To do this is not to do that. To be this is not to be that. To be a woman is not to be a man. To be married is not to be single - which may mean not to have a career. To marry this man is not to marry all the others. A choice is a limitation.” Elisabeth Elliot
To me, a lady is not frilly, flouncy, flippant, frivolous and fluff-brained, but she is gentle, she is gracious, she is godly and she is giving. You and I have the gift of femininity... the more womanly we are, the more manly men will be and the more God is glorified. Be women, be only women, be real women in obedience to God.” Elisabeth Elliot
The important message about being feminine: firstly, it is easy to achieve, even on a small budget and secondly, it doesn't need to be frumpy, old fashion, plain or boring. Here are some lovely examples of a very modern woman dressing modestly. However - whilst it is important to be concerned about the way we dress - we need to be more concerned about is our inward appearance.
Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.
(1 Peter 3:3-4)