God created marriage. In His perfect wisdom, He designed man and woman to complement each other and to enjoy a permanent and complete union with each other. In Genesis 2:18 He said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” After the Lord created Eve, He then said, “A man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
When you take time to nurture this oneness with your spouse, you bring honor to God and acknowledge His ideal design. As you love your marriage partner, you are showing love and obedience to God as well. And as an incredible result, you’ll experience the fullness and blessings that God designed for a married couple to enjoy! Take time now. Set aside five minutes and pray, “Lord, how can I express my love today?” Then write down every way you can think of to tell your honey, “I love you.”
“Nurturing oneness” in your marriage should be something you think and pray about every day. Make it a priority to find new ways to show your love.
by Elizabeth George (LINK)
I posted this list in 2016 but thought it was worth re-posting as part of "My excellent wife" series I am doing this year. To nurture oneness one needs to be active in making sure you do things together, oneness will never happen if you are always off doing different things to your husband. It is ok to have different interests and hobbies but not all the time — otherwise it is like two ships passing in the night.