Monday, January 26, 2015

The weaker vessel

"Mother and son" by Robert Duncan
Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered. 
(1 Peter 3:7)

If you want to stir up strife and offend women, Christian and non-Christian alike, share this particular verse. 

Why . . .  because women jump to the conclusion that being "the weaker vessel" means that they are:

have lesser value in society, 

are not as capable as men,

less able to do things,

less important, and 

men see themselves are more superior.

If we just look at the word "weaker" in a physical sense only . . . it is true that women are physically weaker than men. I can't lift really heavy objects whereas my husband can, it is a fact that cannot be disputed and has been proven many times.  Of course, if we are home alone, we can improvise and do some of those heavy jobs ourselves, but they are not good for our bodies in the long term. We simple are not as physically strong.

However, in saying that, women have amazing strength it's just a different sort. . . the fact that we can give birth demonstrates our strength. We have strength that keeps us going during very difficult times moment with our children (remember all those sleepless nights that seem to go one forever). We have strength that makes us very protective our family and many mothers will to do almost anything to protect their children. We often see this during wartime. This is a strength that comes from the mind rather than physical strength that men have.

God created men and women equally, neither were made superior or inferior to the other.

However, God made our bodies different, both physically and mentally to undertake different roles in society and at home.

Women are designed to be bearers of children, nurturers, to create and maintain the home, to teach, to reach out to those in need, to be a helpmate to ones husband. These tasks require less physical strength and much more emotional and psychological strength. Women need to be organisers, communicators, have the ability to empathise with others, to multi-task, have financial skills, be able to shop wisely, to be creative etc.  These are all gentler skills that do not require lots of hard physical labour (even though at times it might feel like it).  Women were never expected to go out and fight wars and to do all the heavy lifting which is why we don't have the same physical strength as our menfolk.  Proverbs 31 is a perfect example of the role of a wife and mother. She is a very busy woman and one that is never idle, but she doesn't need the same physical strength that her husband needs. 

The word "weaker" does cause great offence and it shouldn't. Whilst women are weaker - which is undeniable, it doesn't mean that women are limited in what they can do (as in the Victorian era). Women can still maintain the car, mow the lawn, paint the house, go skiing, run a marathon if they want, play sport, grow a vegetable garden (I do all my own digging), even join the fire brigade.  Women can go out to work if necessary and work in most occupations if they have the ability and skills.

Some women are stronger than others, however we  need to accept that we will never be able be as physically strong as men as this is the way God made us. And we need to allow our menfolk to take care us and do the heavy-lifting just as God intended. 


Friday, January 23, 2015

Art Friday: Steve Mills

Art Friday: Steve Mills

No, theses are not photographs which makes them even more amazing! I love the seaside ones in particular.

How has your week been? We only had one problem this week - a storm went over on Thursday evening (the rain was very welcome) and a limb from our very large Gum Tree broke and landed in the garden. Whilst it made a mess, I thank the Lord it didn't touch the car or garage (just missing them) so the cost isn't financial. Our son spent a few days in Melbourne and had a wonderful time - it is now a place he is considering moving to one day. He loved the fact that there were so many vegan restaurants that he didn't need to even look for places to eat as there were so many choices.

Work went smoothly, my back is recovering, I have started a jigsaw and working on a number of sewing projects. 

Have a wonderful weekend and looking forward to seeing you all in the new week.


Thursday, January 22, 2015

Thoughtful Thursday: Obstacles and trials

Something to ponder. . . .

Life throws many obstacles in our way, Satan seeks every opportunity to trip us up and own own flesh works against us as we head to the finish line.

The challenge is to see all of life pressures -- every obstacle, every trail -- as opportunities to become more like the Lord Jesus. Joy comes from knowing we are God's children and therefore no trial or difficulty is ever wasted. God uses everything in our lives to humble us and to make us more like His son. 

Keeping your eyes on Him will make all obstacles seem small in comparison and free you to love your husband, your children, your home etc.. without regard to circumstances. 

Whatever the injustice or trial, you can endure because "I can do things through Christ who strengthens me" (Philippians 4:13)

From: "Love Endures", The Excellent Wife by Karen Eiler

 Looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. 

Hebrews 12:2


Wednesday, January 21, 2015

Guest Post: Christian perspective on dying

Guest writer: Bets

Death at any time is difficult. My first experience of it was as a 10 year old when my mother was extremely ill in hospital and it was thought she would die. But she didn’t and so death was not really understood. When I was 12 my grandfather died, totally unexpectedly, seemingly healthy one day and gone 2 days later. It was a mystery to me at that time, and I often thought I caught sight of him in the streets over the next few months.

During my many years as a nurse, I saw death in many. Mostly it came peacefully, but other times it came “unexpectedly”. It was still a mystery in many ways though. How one could be, and then not be.

The real force of death came just a few weeks before my 28th birthday, when the Lord called my mother home at 51 years of age. It had been an event anticipated, but the reality of it was crushing. Bewildering. Hard to escape – for months. My life just kept on, but seemingly without purpose. How could the woman who gave me birth be gone? How could she who had fought ill health for so many years… just give up? Why would she?

The questions still come back, and puzzle me in many ways, but no less at this time, as we go through another “death” experience. This time it is my mother-in-law. She is 82 years old, so death doesn’t seem so rude. But just a month before her cancer diagnosis she was on a cruise. Jumped on her exercise bike every day, walked on a trampoline, attended aqua-aerobics. And then… suddenly she is dying. 

My mother-in-law and I are not close friends. So my grief in watching her die has caught me by surprise. It is so sad to me. Not that she will soon receive her homecall from the Lord, but that her daughters (and son) will be left motherless. Her husband of over 50 years will miss her every hour. Her grandchildren will no longer have a Gran. The sadness of it is all makes me just weep…

And so did our Lord – remember at the tomb of Lazarus? (John 11:35) So He understands our grief. He feels our pain. And what an incredible comfort it is to know that He really, truly understands, has been in that pain too. 

But death for the believer is so hopeful! We are “with Christ, which is far better”! (Philippians 1:23) We miss our loved ones, but we know that they are, by far, better off. No pain. No sorrow. We can’t even imagine it, can we?

It is easy to be angry about our loved ones getting sick. Even angry with God. But He is over all, and He has a plan. Not one that we can see, or even understand at all, but we can be reassured that the God who controls the universe and every atom in it, is in control of every circumstance in our lives. Nothing happens by mistake. Nothing happens without His knowledge. 

Do we accept this? 

Do we accept His will? 


Or do we protest and argue?

This seems to me to be where we often mess up. We say “if it is Your will, Lord”, but we don’t really mean it honestly. We want to add provisos or accept one part and not another. 

We need to peacefully accept His will – to His glory. When we consider all that He has done, continues to do and will do for us, it seems we can do nothing else…!

Tuesday 20th January - my mother-in-law is called Home to her Lord and Saviour in the early hours of the morning. While we will miss her, we are so thankful to the Lord that He took her less than 2 weeks after the diagnosis of cancer, and she did not suffer much at all. Some might wonder at His timing, but He is over all, and we can give Him the praise for His loving care of all of us.

Let not your heart be troubled; you believe in God, believe also in Me. In My Father’s house are many mansions; if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and receive you to Myself; that where I am, there you may be also.

(John 14:1-3)


Guest Writer: Betsy (my cousin) is a young mum of two gorgeous young children which she has just started to home school. She is a busy lady as keeper of her home, a wonderful helper to her husband, but also takes care of her sister and father.


Tuesday, January 20, 2015

Random Tuesday #3

~ Edwardian woman ~

The Edwardian era is the period covering the reign of King Edward VII, 1901 to 1910. Fashion in European and European-influenced countries continued the long elegant lines of the 1890s. A new, columnar silhouette signaled the approaching abandonment of the corset as an indispensable garment of fashionable women. (Source)

This is an interesting era in history for women. Women began to throw off the shackles of restrictive  Victorian age and started the movement towards independences. Middle class women (those single) entered the work force in greater numbers, commenced the moment towards demanding the vote and other rights that had excluded women.  However, the poor suffered the most (as they always do) and those women who were widowed or abandoned by their husbands and unable to find work (in serve) were forced in the workhouses in droves. Their lives were one of misery, likewise their children. Many died young.  

What non of them knew, in a few short years their lives would be turned up-side-down with World War One. Everything that they held dear would alter or disappear for every.


Monday, January 19, 2015

Its all about ME, its about my happiness

Source: Pinterest
Below is a letter that I found in "Letters to the Editor" of a local newspaper - I thought was worth sharing. It gives insight into why many younger women dress the way they do. 

"Wearing a short skirt makes me happy, excited, sensual and daring. 

I don't wear a short skirt to impress you, to attract you, or to arouse you. 

It is not about you. 

I don't mind if you glance at me. I understand that the sight of an attractive young woman in a short skirt is a source of joy and pleasure for both males and females. If I make you happy, then yeah! But do not ever presume that it is OK to stare, call out, follow or harass me. I repeat, it is not about you. I reserve the right to dress how I choose (within the bounds of decency)."  

Its all about me.

I consider myself very important and I don't care about anyone else.

I don't care if I upset others, cause them to lust or cause discomfort or distress.

 I want to make myself happy, I want to be an individual and do my own thing. 

The ME generation is all about me and I don't give two hoots about anyone else or their feelings. 

“To be happy, we must not be too concerned with others.” Albert Camus


Sound familiar? It should be, as we are surrounded by people with these selfish attitudes who do as they please regardless of how it effects others.  A selfish person is one who cares only for their own pleasures, even if it causes pain or discomfort to someone else. They have no consideration for others and worry only about their own comfort. They are in pursuit of their own happiness (some at any cost to others) but sadly, they won't never find happiness by being selfish. This particular women believes she will find happiness by dressing the way she pleases, she won't

Nowhere in the bible are we promised personal happiness and we should never spend our lives searching for it. Seeking happiness through selfish pursues will only take us further away from Christ.

However, happiness can be found from knowing that through Christ we will receive everlasting peace and joy even when going through tribulations. In fact we must remain joyful during the tough times and thank and praise the Lord daily no matter what is happening in our lives. 

Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. (John 14:27)

Our only source of our happiness is from God and God alone (and not from material goods) and knowing that Jesus Christ died on the cross for us, washing away our sins and giving us eternal life should bring us complete and utter joy and happiness which nothing in this world can surpass this.

Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. He who believes in Me, though he may die, he shall live. And whoever lives and believes in Me shall never die. Do you believe this?” (John 11:25:26)

I wonder if the woman who wrote the letter is truly happy. I doubt it. Wearing a short skirt might bring her a moment of pleasure but it is not everlasting and she will be forever searching and being disappointed as she has no idea what true joy is. It certainly isn't a piece of fabric. And in the process she is likely to upset and cause men to lust. 

“These things I have spoken to you, that My joy may remain in you, and that your joy may be full. (John 15:11) 


Friday, January 16, 2015

Art Friday: Kiyoshi Saitō

Art Friday: Kiyoshi Saitō 

April 27, 1907 – November 14, 1997, born in Aizubange, Fukushima, Japan

Painter and print maker

I know nothing about Japanese art having never studied it. Therefore I really can't provide  any intelligent comment of these prints by Kiyoshi Saito, except that I really like them. I am particularly drawn to their simplicity, of colour, line and topic. What do you think?

PS I do love the prints of cats that he does. Any person who likes cats is a friend of mine!!

If you want to learn more about Kiyoshi Saito check out this LINK.



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