Thoughtful Friday: Keeping your marriage strong

I found this great illustration by Norman Rockwell and wanted to use it today but needed to add something to make it more interesting. Driving and navigating really does bring out the worse in a some married couples — my husband and I have argued over directions on a number of occasions, he usually thinks I have got it wrong and I complain that he isn't listening. It doesn't often end well and can ruin a perfectly good outing.  Like anything this requires good team work, communication skills, the ability to not get angry, to accept when you are wrong and to enjoy the ride!!! Sounds like life doesn't it!!!

So, here are some tips on how to build a stronger marriage and hopefully go on drives that do not result in arguments over directions!!!
Talk to your spouse more kindly than you talk to anyone else in the world. Too often we speak the most harshly to those closest to us.
Remember that marriage is less about marrying the right person and more about becoming t…

At home and bored

There is a belief that women of the past loved being at home and loved all things home-keeping, were busy, happy and coping well. This simply wasn't true. Many women were lonely, bored and didn't enjoy housework at all. In the 1930s a group of ordinary women in the United Kingdom got together and formed a small group called Cooperative Correspondence Club (CCC). Without our modern technology, this group had to communicate the hard way: Each woman would send the coordinator their contribution (any topic of interest) and she would compile these into one magazine and post it to Lady No. 1. No.1 would add her comments directly to the pages and send it to No. 2 and so one. A new magazine was created fortnightly. 
The first woman to respond was 26 years old — she wrote that she had regretted marrying young, that she loathed housework, didn't really want children so early and was bored to tears. 
Marriage, home and children were expected of all women in the 1930s regardless of whet…

Two will become one flesh

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh (Ephesians 5:31).
This verse is not simply an example of beautiful, poetic language. There is a fundamental reality behind this: Husband and wife are not just two people rooming together. Their lives actually do blend into one another. They actually become one. It is, therefore, true that what hurts the wife damages the husband. It cannot help but do so. If he is bitter toward her, it will eat like a cancer in his own life and heart. That is why, if you have had a squabble with your spouse, you may find yourself unable to do your work properly that day.
No where in the verse does it say that the husband is to dominate or control his wife, to treat her badly, to punish her, to ignore her concerns or her feelings. And likewise a wife shouldn’t be pushy or dominating, nagging, nitpicking etc. This is the union of two people who become one and one doesn’t hurt its-self (unless…

Colourful Friday

I love Autumn. . . 

It is my favourite season — the days are mild but sunny and its perfect walking and picnic weather.  The evenings are cool and one can start to rug up and be cosy indoors. But most of all, the trees burst into colour of reds, orange and yellows and create a magnificent display.  Since ancient times, autumn has ranked as one of the most important times of year as daylight begins to fade and the cold, dark days lie ahead. It is at this time of the year that all the crops need to be gathered and stored in preparation for the long winter months. This is no longer an issue today with our 24 hour supermarkets so we no longer appreciate the importances of this time of the year. 
Why do the leaves change colour: 

The spectacle of green leaves turning rich reds and yellows in autumn happens when trees have taken all the food they can from the leaves that are filled with chlorophyll – the biomolecule that absorbs energy from sunlight and gives leaves their green colour.

When su…

Meekness doesn't mean weakness

During World War Two there were a very special group of amazing women. These were the women test pilots. Once the planes were made (by women in the factories), each plane had to tested and flown to its destination - which could be anywhere across the United Kingdom, Europe or for those in the USA, anywhere in the country. 
One woman, Mary Ellis, piloted more than 1,000 planes of 74 different types. And this is what made these women amazing. They could hop into any type of plane and fly it. These women were highly skilled and very talented. They didn't just fly the small planes, they also flew the large bombers as well, testing the weapons to make sure they all worked before handing over the planes to the "real" pilots. It was dangerous work and some died in the process of delivering their planes.
Sadly after the war their contribution was ignored and most were unable to find jobs in the aviation industry because "women didn't fly" even though these women w…

Part 5: Christian working women - dealing with a lousy day

Part 5: Dealing with a lousy day 😟
We all have lousy days.  It doesn't matter whether you are at home with small children or at work dealing with a difficult manager — some days just don't go to plan . . . they turn out horrible. 
By the end of the day we are grumpy, snappy, tired, worn-out and basically fed up. 
So what do you do?
Take things as slowly as you can because you brain is not likely to want to think very fast. Ignore anything too complicated (it will still be there tomorrow), cook something very simple for dinner that requires no brain power (or buy take-away), followed by long shower or bath and climb onto the couch, feet up and watch something mindless and try and recover. For those with children it is much harder, but get hubby to help is always a good idea. Just remember to not snap at them as it isn't their fault that you had a lousy day. 
Below are some tips for recovering from a lousy day. These aren't my bright ideas (I wish they were), but I liked the…

Understanding Friday

Mother's Day . . . a day that brings great joy to the first time mums and great grief to the woman who cannot conceive.
Mother's Day is a tough, hard day for all the women who so desperately want children but have not been blessed with any. It is so important to remember these women, not in pity but in love and care. These women have suffered a great deal and do not need to be quizzed by others (who may have many children) why they don't have any.  Some of these women may have lost their only babies via miscarriage and the pain may still be raw. Others may have never had the joy of ever carrying a baby. Only God understands why and we need to be respectful, gentle and understanding. We need to remember these women on Mother's Day and not just think of our own blessings. 
And lets also remember all the mothers who have lost children (young or older) from accidents, cot death, suicide, from illness and also for all the mothers who's children have strayed and no longer …